Tantra or sex massage - when touch means more.
- Tantric Flow
- Jan 16
- 3 min read
Many people confuse tantra massage with erotic or sex massage, which is no coincidence, since in tantra we also touch intimate areas and work with sexual energy.
Misunderstandings are also increased by the fact that many people advertise something else under the name of tantra massage, which turns out to be partly or entirely erotic in nature, or simply a sexual service.
The German Tantra Association has issued an official statement on the differences, which I used in my article. You can find the link to the statement at the bottom of the page.
Of course, erotic massage has its place and role as long as it is performed ethically and legally, but if you want to see the differences more clearly, read on.
The intention of the touch . The main goal of tantric massage is to provide an inner journey in which the recipient can feel safe in their body and freely experience the emotions that help or hinder them in life. The masseur's intention is to create a safe space before, during and after the massage, in which somatic healing is possible. Sometimes this process results in intense experiences. The liberation from emotional barriers and a deeply relaxed state ultimately help the recipient achieve higher levels of pleasure in their everyday life. The sex massage provider is interested in short-term pleasure and often works purposefully and efficiently to get the guest to pay and leave as soon as possible.
Touching the whole body, holistic approach. During tantra massage, we look for areas where our guest's body has stored emotional blocks or trauma, and since this can be anywhere, we try to touch every part of the body. Massage techniques are also varied, there are holding touches, relaxing, opening touches and sensual touches, the latter not only in intimate areas. Sex or erotic massage focuses mainly on the genitals.
Tantra is one-way. In tantra massage, the recipient can experience that they are valuable, lovable or “good enough” even if they do nothing. In tantra, the quality of intimate connection results in deeper experiences, as if there were a sexual charge in it. We can often show our guests colors in intimacy that they can then invite or allow into their everyday relationships. During sex massage, reciprocity often appears, where the guest does not immerse themselves in their own sensuality, but reaches out to an external source, which diverts the focus from their own experiences.
Level of pleasure in the body, mind and spirit. The length and slow pace of tantric massage often result in deep, transformative experiences. It teaches both body and soul to be happy. Energetic or spiritual experiences are common. Erotic massage is usually shorter in duration and allows for faster, but more superficial pleasure.
Professional structure and execution. The professional tantra masseuse is trained and continuously trains himself, knows and has used many self-knowledge tools for self-maintenance. This background ensures that he can support his guests with a well-structured massage and a presence that gives security. Sex massage is provided in extremely diverse quality by service providers, who often struggle with unprocessed traumas themselves or are reluctant to do this work.
Honest connection. The tantric masseuse is present with her full attention and being during the massage, she does not feign desires or play erotic roles and games. She ensures an authentic presence before, during and after the massage. She is sincerely accepting even if her guest comes for a massage “secretly”, although there is nothing to hide with us. We believe that tantric massage is a self-development tool, which will also enrich the people important to our guest.
Expectations and frameworks. During a tantric massage, the guest does not have expectations of the masseur or of themselves. They entrust themselves to the masseur, who accompanies them with touches on an inner journey, during which they may experience what they need most that day. Expectations appear in erotic massage, so it is possible that the guest may have negative emotions after the massage, which may reinforce previously suffered emotional injuries and traumas.
If it sounds alignes to you and you would like to try professional tantra massage, then come to us. Check out the massages we offer here:
The official position of the German Tantra Association on the subject can be read here.
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